Do you get stressed a lot? You inherited it from your mother
2025-02-26 09:18:54
TiranaPost
From the moment you're in your mother's womb, you begin to absorb her emotional state, her stress levels, and even the way she regulates her nervous system.
So if the mother is calm, the child's nervous system is resilient and restorative.
If she is anxious or reacts emotionally, the child's nervous system learns to adapt to this stress.
If your nervous system is developed with tendencies to be on the front lines or in the fight to find comfort, this is what it looks like:
• constantly feeling anxious, even when nothing is wrong
• struggling to slow down or rest
• reversal of any decision, conversation, or conclusion
• Emotional feelings of numbness or detachment from oneself
• You hardly trust people, or you don't feel secure in relationships
• Stays busy or productive all the time to avoid quiet
• Feeling stuck in cycles of consumption, or exhaustion
• Always pleasing others, either because you seek to avoid conflict, or by struggling to set boundaries
• Being aware of other people's moods and adapting yourself accordingly
• Feeling like you always have to be in control
This doesn't mean you should go and blame your mother for this. She is not to blame, as she herself has inherited her emotions. This is something that has been passed down from generation to generation, from mothers to children.
However, despite your heritage, it doesn't mean you're stuck here. The nervous system is adaptable and you have the ability to change it.
Healing begins with teaching yourself to adapt a new way to respond to stress.
You can choose peace instead of surveillance, and connection instead of numbness or lack of feeling.
Trust your body's signals instead of doubting them. Respond to stress with calmness, instead of panic.
