How do you know if you are stuck in the trap of a narcissistic partner?
In the Italian program " Sopravvissuta ", stories are told of women who have survived unhappy marriages. And after their stories of violence of all kinds, blaming themselves up to a point and ending the marriage, moderator Matilde D`Errico invites psychologist Silvia Michelini to tell more about the profile of a commonly abusive man. with his narcissistic and egocentric personality.
"From economic violence, to insults, to physical violence. Usually, some men offend and hurt their wives, those who say they love them. They humiliate them, sometimes even threaten them, other times they use physical violence against them. They are the same men who with others, outside the walls of the house, are transformed into angels. In the eyes of others they are attractive and charismatic. How is it explained? It is associated with the hypocrisy of the narcissist, the devil disguised as the face of an angel.
Narcissists are people who suffer from a personality disorder. They are people who are stuck at a certain age and function according to that age. In other words, they grow up in the body, but inside they remain injured children who need some kind of reward from the outside world.
A narcissist is a manipulator. He disguises himself as an adult to then draw his "weapons" and capture the next victim. They are empty people who need to have control over someone else in order to enable their survival. It's like this virus we're living. That captures the cells of the body to feed and ensure survival, as outside the human body can not live. So even a narcissist is exactly like that: an empty vase filled with relationships with others. Empty and broken vase because it fills and empties very quickly. So it needs to be constantly replenished. The moment the narcissist sees the victim who feels bad about him, then he feels alive seeing the effect it has caused. This is his proof of existence. "These men never change," says psychologist Silvia Michelini.