Parents raising safe children do these 5 things during 'difficult times'
We all want to raise resilient, confident and intelligent children. A psychologist who specializes in adolescent development says that the key is for parents to provide reassurance at an early age.
Children, especially teenagers and young adults, sometimes need a confirmation that what they are thinking and feeling is normal and okay. In fact, psychologists believe that certification is one of the most powerful tools of parenting, and yet it is often left out of traditional parenting training programs.
Confirming your child's feelings does not necessarily mean that you forgive or agree with the actions he or she takes. It simply means showing that you listen to them, understand them and accept them.
5 Ways Successful Parents Use According to Psychologists:
1. They normalize experiences
Friendships help children develop important life skills, but neither is perfect.
Remind your child that all friendships go through ups and downs. In stable relationships, close friends inevitably disappoint and irritate from time to time.
2. Provide physical comfort
Several studies have found the benefits of interpersonal contact. For example, hugging can lower blood pressure and instill a sense of care and security.
Let's say your child is feeling upset about something. Before you say a single word, you can rub your back, hug them, or hold your hand.
3. They learn that quality exceeds quantity
One study found that teens who had a lot of friends - but more superficially - at school were more anxious.
Plus, contrary to what most kids think, being popular does not ease loneliness.
Reassure your child that he or she does not need hundreds of friends, whether on social media or in real life. Some will suffice, as long as they are loyal, trustworthy, and supportive.
4. They focus on the positive things
Often children are stopped by a small social frustration, which at that moment seems bigger and more urgent than all the positive things in their lives.
As you feel sensitivity to your child's concern, refocusing his attention on his ultimate triumphs and pleasures allows them to appreciate the things that really matter.
5. They give hope
Tell your child that even though you are having a hard time right now, it will not last forever. Things will improve. Social situations will change because children will change.