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Are you planning to live with your partner? Ask each other these questions first

Are you planning to live with your partner? Ask each other these questions first

Before you decide to move in with a partner, it's important to talk to them about your expectations and fears, says Jessica Small, a marriage counselor.

Here are some key questions that will help start the conversation.

Why do we want to live together?

If the reason you want to live with your partner is cheaper rent or because you feel societal pressure, you may want to take a step back, she says.

"Relationships work best when they are based on wants rather than needs."

What are we anxious about?

Coexistence is exciting! But, it can also create anxieties that you should discuss with your partner. If you both know what makes the other nervous, you can handle it better.

It's also normal to be anxious about what you're missing out on, says Small.

"People don't often ask themselves what they will sacrifice when they live with their partner and then feel overwhelmed by their experience of grief," she says.

Other important questions to ask:

What will coexistence look and feel like? Think about having dinner together every night, waking up in the morning, drinking coffee together and who will cook?

What will happen that will make me feel like the cohabitation has been successful?

What does this step say about our relationship? For example, if one of you sees this as a step towards marriage and the other does not, this should be discussed.