Healthy and happy people never do this! Advice from a 102-year-old doctor
Dr. Gladys McGarey/ I turned 102 this year and my decades of experience in holistic medicine have taught me a lot about how to live a long, happy and purposeful life.
Many people feed on unnecessary stress. But the happiest and healthiest people I know are able to let go of things or experiences that no longer serve them. Life is too short to rethink and consider the same thought over and over. By doing so, you are essentially torturing yourself.
So the habit that has brought me health and happiness throughout my years is the ability to build things from scratch, be it a relationship, career path or project.
Let go of things that drain your energy
My mother taught me a simple way to let go of things that don't matter. She would raise her hand gently in front of us, fingers held loosely, palm up. Then jump down and back and say, "It doesn't matter."
This natural drive enabled her to live through great challenges without letting them get too deep; she just let go of what wasn't working, focused on what was important to her, and moved on.
I have adopted this practice for years.
How to practice letting go
This exercise will work best if you get up and move! Put on some upbeat music and start walking around your house or neighborhood.
Let your body move freely as you walk. You can even let yourself dance a little.
1. Identify something that feels blocked in your life.
It can be a friendship, a professional endeavor, a way of thinking, a grudge, etc.
2. Imagine you could hold this thing in your hand.
You may even feel a fist clench. Hold this tight. Shake your hand.
3. Let it really go.
While still moving, hold your hand out in front of you, palms up, fingers together. Then jump down and back, opening your toes slightly. As you do this, release the lock.
Mund të mendoni ose të thoni fjalë që kanë kuptim për ju: "Nuk ka rëndësi", ose ndonjë frazë të ngjashme që funksionon për ju.
Pasi ta keni lënë të shkojë, merrni një moment për të vlerësuar rrjedhën e jetës që kalon nëpër ju.
Njerëzit më të lumtur e dinë se kur është koha për të ecur përpara
Të gjithë përballen me pendime. Pyetja është: Sa kohë duhet ta mbajmë atë.Nëse e gjeni veten duke jetuar me keqardhje, përpiquni ta kapni atë dhe të shihni se çfarë po lëviz.
A shkuan gjërat kryesisht në rregull? Nëse po, ji mirënjohës! A ka ndonjë gjë qesharake në të? Nëse po, qeshni! A keni mësuar ndonjë gjë të re që atëherë? Nëse po, kënaquni me atë që dini tani dhe shpreheni sado që të mundeni!
Do whatever you can to let go of your regrets—forgive yourself and, if necessary, seek forgiveness from others—so you can move on with your life.