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'The woman deals with the children'. This sentence and some others that fathers should not say

'The woman deals with the children'. This sentence and some others

This time, Lira Gjika's advice is not addressed to grandmothers, educators or mothers, but to fathers. The father is one of the most important figures in the life of the child, but who often distances himself, especially if he is the one who works and provides income at home, and if the wife stays at home.

'The woman deals with the children'. This sentence and some others
Lira Gjika

"'The woman takes care of the children, that's why I left her at home, I don't even take her to work'. Or another expression 'yes you are the mother'. This justification is articulated, from politicians to small traders. The father has no time, he is busy working outside the home. Even when the husband is out of work, he does not deal with his children, and not because he does not want to, but because he does not know. He does not know how to behave with the child, as he has neither seen nor experienced such a thing. But this does not mean, that he should not do the task, on the contrary. The number of fathers involved in the lives of children is increasing, but the number of fathers who do not see it as their duty, responsible involvement in the life and education of the child still prevails. They love their child very much, but they do not know him, they fulfill their desires, that seem to them to be the desires of the child, but are in fact the missing and unfulfilled desires of their childhood. To love a child does not mean to buy clothes, cars, toys or to make a room that the parent finds beautiful. This form, which the parent chooses to build with the child, is a commercial form. It's like making a contract 'I'm buying you things, you leave me alone'. No contractual relationship is established with the child. The parent-child, father-child relationship is the fundamental human-human relationship through consciousness, where things have minimal value. is a commercial form. It's like making a contract 'I'm buying you things, you leave me alone'. No contractual relationship is established with the child. The parent-child, father-child relationship is the fundamental human-human relationship through consciousness, where things have minimal value. is a commercial form. It's like making a contract 'I'm buying you things, you leave me alone'. No contractual relationship is established with the child. The parent-child, father-child relationship is the basic human-human relationship through consciousness, where things have minimal value.

To love the child means to be there when he takes the first step, where the child, like Atlas, carries the whole human universe on his back and has to move his legs to move forward. It is a gigantic power, which the little man sets in motion, to take the first steps; not to mention then the other tenfold energy he needs to articulate the word. It would be good for his father to be by his side in these moments, to encourage him and to be proud of him. Not in vain did all peoples, at the same time, unrelated to each other, create the same expression: 'Mother taught me, Father taught me!'. The figure of the father is as important and central a figure as that of the mother ", writes pediatrician Lira Gjika.