Hyper-parenting: The consequences of parents wanting to give everything to their children
Too often, it is natural for parents to be protective of their children. When a child is in trouble, mom and dad rush to the rescue. But an overprotective attitude is not always positive and often has consequences on children's emotional growth and autonomy.
The role of parents is to take care of their children, to welcome them but also to leave them free in the decisions and mistakes they will make. Only in this way can they become truly responsible adults. Of course parents need to support and motivate their children, without replacing them in their choices.
The pros and cons of hyper-parenting
Hyper-parenting is characterized above all by one fact: parents want to meet all the needs of their children, even before they are born. On the one hand, this undoubtedly brings advantages: for example, care in choosing kindergarten or primary school, which offer many and varied opportunities; special attention that can understand if there is something wrong.
However, hyper-parenting often leads to excessive control cravings, the desire to choose the best they can have for their children. It is a presence that, unfortunately, often ends up being intrusive, especially at the psychological level, and can certainly cause more harm than good. Both parents and children are likely to develop severe anxiety, stress and discomfort.
Children feel pressured because they will have to meet all of their parents' expectations just to "satisfy" them. Parents, overly protective and obsessed with control, live badly, are often frustrated and dissatisfied, with many anxieties and unable to calmly face the difficulties of reality, with its inevitable failures.
Another danger is that of creating a very symbiotic relationship, in which children are unlikely to achieve autonomy.
Hyperparenting can lead to poor development of emotional control and behavioral skills; in difficulty coping with difficult situations, for example in school (where they may have a lower performance) or in social relationships with peers.