Harvard psychology expert reveals what gets in the way of people's success
Luana Marques/ Anxiety, worry and change are all part of life, but they are not enemies. The #1 silent enemy of success is how we react to it.
As a Harvard psychologist, I have observed this struggle. I coined a concept for it, “psychological avoidance,” based on my 20 years of research and clinical work.
Psychological avoidance is any response to a perceived threat that brings immediate emotional relief but comes with long-term consequences.
To live a full life, we must learn to face our challenges and fears head on.
How to handle it?
Identify the fear, then ask yourself, "What evidence do I have to support this?" or, "What would my best friend say in this situation?" The empirical evidence you've come up with can help get you out of that harmful mindset.
Identify what really matters to you and take one small step each day to move in that direction.
If you value family, make time to connect with your loved ones every day. If you have a creative dream, create a daily schedule to devote to it.
Even five minutes before you go to work can make all the difference and be a catalyst for long-term growth and success.
*Luana Marques, PhD, is an associate professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.