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Love has five languages, but one is the most misunderstood

Love has five languages, but one is the most misunderstood

The five love languages ??are quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, and receiving gifts.

In his bestseller 'The 5 Love Languages', author Gary Chapman - a Baptist pastor, counselor and church speaker - first presented his theory that people feel more loved when their partner expresses love in their 'language ' dominant. The problem, he noted, is that we often show love the way we personally like to receive it—even though our preference usually differs from theirs. This is why it is essential to understand your partner's love language.

Of the five, gift-giving is the most misunderstood love language. If this is your or your partner's primary love language, don't be too quick to judge.

"People seem to look down on the love language of 'receiving gifts' and make unfair judgments," Nicole Saunders, a therapist, told HuffPost. "They may consider a person with that love language to be materialistic, frivolous and superficial."

But this is often not the case. Chapman explained that it's not the price that's important to this person — it's the thought, care or effort that went into choosing the gift. It makes this person feel seen, understood, or valued.

A thoughtful gift speaks more deeply than a hastily given gift.

In other words, don't look for a nice pair of sneakers just because they're expensive. The value of the gift is about what it symbolizes.

To give a gift with meaning and thought requires attention and empathy, which ultimately strengthens the bond of relationships. And the gift often becomes a symbol of feeling, increasing love.

If your partner's love language is gifts, don't forget special dates like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and other milestones. Set reminders in your calendar so you don't forget them.