They've Been Married for 35 Years and Here's the Thing They Never Do to Have a Successful Relationship
2023-05-24 20:42:47
TiranaPost
Psychologists John and Julie Gottman have been married for 35 years. They've studied more than 40,000 couples over the years and have just 1 tip to make your relationship work and stand the test of time.
"We've been married to each other for 35 years, so we've learned a few things about how to build a successful, long-term relationship. But that doesn't mean we don't make mistakes. We fight with each other, because above all we are human. However, there is one thing we have learned never to do: argue when we are emotionally charged,” they say.
When we feel that we are emotionally charged
Emotional flooding occurs when we feel overwhelmed psychologically and physically. At this moment, it often happens that our body senses the danger during a conflict and prevents us from having productive conversations.
Some signs of an emotionally charged state:
- Your heart beats faster and you feel difficulty breathing.
- Your jaw or muscles tighten.
- You have difficulty listening to your partner.
- You focus on anything other than what you really think.
- You want to raise your voice and say negative things, run away, or ignore your partner.
These behaviors can damage your partner's trust in you and the foundation of your relationship. Therefore, it is best not to continue communicating with each other.
