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5 sorry sentences that make you look insecure and what to say instead

5 sorry sentences that make you look insecure and what to say instead

Saying "I'm sorry" for things that don't necessarily require it often stems from a desire to show respect or avoid conflict. And while it may seem harmless, it can be damaging to your reputation.

As a Harvard-trained behavioral scientist, I always encourage people to change their language from forgiveness to appreciation. By expressing gratitude, you leave a more positive impression.
Here are five "sorry" phrases to ditch and what to say instead:

1. "I'm sorry you have to help me so much."

When you apologize for asking for someone's time, it can mean that the act of helping you is a burden or a nuisance. This may make them less willing to help again later.

What to say instead: Recognize the person's contributions and highlight the positive impact of their actions.

"I appreciate you taking the time to provide feedback."

2. "Excuse me if I'm talking too much."

Apologizing for speaking dilutes your message.

What to say instead: Express gratitude for the opportunity to talk or share your thoughts.

"Your willingness to listen to me means a lot to me."

3. "I'm sorry if I'm being too emotional."

When you apologize for expressing your emotions, you create a restrictive atmosphere, which is not conducive to building healthy relationships. It can also inadvertently discourage others from sharing their feelings.

What to say instead: Point out the other person's role in the conversation and express appreciation for their patience and sensitivity.

"Thank you for listening and understanding my point of view."

4. "Sorry for the delay."

Assuming the delay has not caused major damage or inconvenience, an apology may imply that the other person's time has been wasted.

What to say instead: Instead of pointing out the delay, show that you value the other person's time by recognizing their willingness to be patient and calm.

"Thank you for your patience."

5. "I'm sorry I keep messing up."

Apologizing for small mistakes may suggest that you lack the ability or competence to perform well. This ultimately damages your self-esteem and leaves people unsure of how to respond.

What to say instead:

“Your instructions have been really helpful.”