According to a Harvard psychologist, people judge you for the first time, based on these two criteria
We are human and form first impressions on the people we meet. Some say that the first impression is made based on someone's appearance, while others based on personality. According to a Harvard psychologist, both of these opinions are wrong. In her book "Presence", she writes that people ask themselves these two questions when they meet for the first time:
Can I trust this person?
Can I respect this person?
According to Cuddy, it is essential to think and feel that someone deserves our trust. So confidence is the number one factor we judge in those we meet for the first time. "If you're going to have some influence in the life of a person who doesn't trust you, you're not going to succeed. That person will even look suspiciously at you, calling you a manipulator. On the contrary, if you are a warm and reliable person, you will more easily achieve the things you want to achieve in life", says the psychology in question.
All of us may have noticed in ourselves that we do not express ourselves openly with people we do not trust. Time must pass, we feel better in their presence to express ourselves about the feelings we have, or the problems we are going through. That's why Cuddy psychology places emphasis on trust, as one of the basic principles in human relationships. But what is presented to us as a novelty is that faith is the first thing we see in people we meet for the first time. This is the novelty of the study of the psychologist in question, who in her book rejects any opinion that the first impression is created by the external appearance, or by the personality of the person we meet...
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