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How does Martha live, the gifted child with extraordinary abilities!

How does Martha live, the gifted child with extraordinary abilities!

There are special syndromes and situations that are practically never talked about because knowledge about them is quite scarce or simply not considered "important" compared to other pathologies; among them is undoubtedly "Intellectual Ability", which, as we read in this article, affects 5% of the population and has to do with the extraordinary ability to excel in some disciplines or sectors, for example, showing an intellectual ability far above average, visual or creative ability.

Talented children (either "in possession of a gift") or with cognitive hyperdotation, get surprisingly high scores on intelligence tests and, as mentioned, show special abilities above the average of their peers; for this reason, they too often run the risk of getting bored in class, engaging only in tasks that they find enjoyable, or getting annoyed with repeating certain routines.

Understanding the life of a talented child is by no means simple, because, in fact, these are children who at first glance may seem simply more "intelligent" or "lively", but it is very important not to confuse "Intellectual Skill" with hyperactivity; to try to better enter the daily life of a child with a plus, we have chosen to give voice to Milena, who is Martha's mother, a girl with high cognitive potential.

"It is the child who, compared to peers, is distinguished by a higher potential, manifested in several specific areas and at different times, predicted, in relation to the objective of development. - Moreover, the child has a curiosity to great oriented on several fronts and manifested by the constant tendency to ask so many questions.He is talented with creativity, often has strange ideas, statements and actions outside the box, answers to unusual and sometimes even innovative questions and problems. They are children who, compared to their peers, quickly acquire new notions, are able to reason abstractly early.From emotional and relational point of view they often experience feelings with great intensity, expressing their thoughts with emphasis and abundant personal involvement,they have an excellent sense of humor. "

This is an overview, if we want to call it that ... And then there is Martha.

"We have always known that Martha had a special cognitive and emotional intelligence. Her very early childhood was characterized by a very rapid progress associated mainly with learning and verbal language. In six months he pronounced the names of all the family members, in one year he knew the numbers and after a few months the alphabet in Italian and English. However, like all children, she too had her flaws: she never slept! For the day we played, we learned, but it also happened at night.

Now, after this trip, I discovered that for her sleep meant ‘wasting’ of time she could have used to learn instead. "I do not deny that there were many moments of despair, but slowly we got used to its rhythms and fortunately as we grew up the situation improved."

How is Tuesday's daily life? Where is her intellectual skill especially expressed?

"Her uniqueness is not just about a cognitive aspect, but also about the emotional one: her way of being a child, of expressing emotions, feelings, of communicating with the world is special. I think the right word is empathy. When we watch a movie, she manages to identify with what happens to the protagonist, if she sees someone suffering, she takes over that feeling.

A few months ago my father and I decided to change the city and try to make him live the separation from his grandparents in the best way, so we decided to turn to a therapist for help.

With two psychologists from the Ipsum Center in Foggia, we saw fit to also subject Martha in a psycho-cognitive way to find out if she fell within the framework of intellectual dexterity. Use of WPPSI [Wechsler Preschool and Primary Intelligence Level, an intelligence test created for children ages 2 to 7] is allowed to determine the degree of intellectual capacity whose QIT (Tuesday) is 150 (above average) QIP is 146 (above average), QIV is 145 (above average). "Therefore, the analysis confirmed her talent, but at the same time an extreme sensitivity emerged that makes her experience reality in a very deep way."

However, from the beginning it was not easy to deal with a talented child.

"In the days after the diagnosis, I do not hide the fact that we experienced mixed feelings: happiness, pleasure, fear, anxiety. Sure, we knew Martha had a special cognitive and emotional intelligence, but her confirmation by a specialist is another thing.

Moreover, addressing this discussion with those around me, I realized that the reality of this gift if I may call it that, is still very little known.

So I decided to try to write, to tell about our daily lives, to make known our experience, even ironically, the tedious miracle of raising a talented child.

"A girl almost 5 years old, who fortunately has not yet experienced bullying or discrimination (and I hope she never will). Of course, naivety does not explain how she manages to learn poetry twice and the other times 15 times or because she already knows how to write and others do not, but it is very discreet to express these doubts only in the family, without judging no one and without being aware of being so special.

As for the future, of course, no one knows. We hope to be able to support you in any difficulty you will encounter, of course with a certificate in your hands we hope to find teachers who can understand you in moments of boredom or anxiety. "Now, as the psychologist advised us, we just have to help her be a child and explore that fantasy world she always tries to control."

Natascia Alibani