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Teen Story / A close friend is keeping a secret from me, what should I do?

Teen Story / A close friend is keeping a secret from me, what should I do?

I have a close friend, Kristie and we have known each other since elementary school. We have always been very connected. We never kept each other secret. At least until yesterday I found out that she has been separated from her boyfriend since three months ago. Three months! Can you imagine? And he did not tell me.

I thought we were close friends. Does this mean that our society is no longer the same? Should I sever ties with him?

Psychologist's answer:

Oh, those precious secrets ... We like to share them and share them with us, but when someone keeps a secret from you it seems like a disaster. Honestly, a volcano erupting is not as dangerous as a girl in that dramatic moment when she learns that she is no longer the secret keeper of her friend who has been separated from her boyfriend. But anger leads nowhere and being frustrated and sad does not help you make things better.

Read the list of what to do and what not to do.

Things NOT to do:

Do not rush to conclusions. There may be a reason why she kept it a secret. For example, Kristie may have felt embarrassed when she broke up with her boyfriend and she did not want you to feel sorry for her. Some secrets can be very harmful to share.

Do not end your friendship. You may later regret that emotional decision.

Do not discuss her secret or the fact that she hid it.

Things to do:

Calm down and talk to him without anger or judgment. Before asking why he kept the secret from you, offer help. Ask what you can do to help her feel better.

Once you have both calmed down, you can talk about why he did not share this story with you. He could even tell you these days.

Ask if this is the only thing he did not tell you.

Keep her secrets when she shares them with you. If you do not keep the promise once, your friendship can be destroyed forever ...

Lastly, do not force anyone to confide in you.