According to science, the secret to a happy family is 'lazy parenting'
2024-08-13 13:28:42
TiranaPost
According to experts, the secret of a happy family is the so-called "lazy parenting", which is based on the idea that it is not necessary to constantly "swirl" around your children and keep constant control over what they do. Passive parenting would allow them to grow up in the best way possible.
This is the opposite model to that followed by 'helicopter parents', whose lives constantly gravitate around that of their children, over whom they want to have complete control. The ability to play and have experiences freely is very important for children. In this way, they can build their identity and learn to manage boredom. Even their brain benefits, as the functions are stimulated to solve problems by themselves.
This type of parenting can also help build a child's self-confidence as they learn to do things on their own and take responsibility for their own actions. Even when it comes to homework, it is up to the child to manage himself and his time, which he will eventually have to do when he grows up.
Lazy parenting: children's welfare comes first
"Lazy parenting allows parents to be there for children without drowning them with attention," writes Best Case Parenting.com, a website run by an early childhood educator. 'Instead of keeping an eye on them every minute, it's better to let children make their own decisions and only step in when they need help.'
A more intrusive attitude in your children's lives can be counterproductive. Furthermore, once they reach adolescence, children may begin to feel that they are incompetent because they are unable to take care of themselves. In these cases it is easy for parents to intervene. Then a vicious circle is activated from which it is very difficult to escape.
Being a lazy parent does not mean being uninterested in your child, on the contrary. A lazy parent, although he gives his children all the space they need, is always attentive to what they do. Only in case of danger or need is he ready to intervene. However, he lets the children make mistakes because he knows that's the only way they can learn.
