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Grida Duma explosion as a sign of nervousness in the opposition camp

Grida Duma explosion as a sign of nervousness in the opposition camp

By Mustafa Nano / On Tuesday evening, in Eni Vasili's Open program, our eyes saw a debate as mosozot. Gaboi Grida Duma, Gaboi Frrok Çupi, Gaboi Agron Gjekmarkaj.

But let’s take things in order. The first was Grida Duma, who began her speech by identifying Frrok Çupi as "this individual in front". It was a contemptuous way of speaking. It was an invitation to fight. And all for no reason. It seemed as if Grida had gone to the Open just to devalue the "individual in front". For nothing else. After that, he got what he had calculated to get. And so he found a reason to throw in the direction of Çupi other terms, such as "sigh", "sludge" etc. Personally, I was caught by surprise. I had never imagined Grida in that role. She has been calm, elegant, sleek prore. In fact, it has impressed me with its ability to absorb shocks, many of which have been unjust, dishonest, and wicked. They took the mark as a woman, as a woman. Frroku did the same that night.

I have an explanation why Grida behaved that way. Her outburst is indicative of a nervousness in the opposition camp, which her friends have demonstrated in time. They have been out of state offices for a long time, and fear has gripped them that they may remain on the "wrong" side of parliament for at least another four years. He was deceived by the fact that, no matter how things go, at the beginning of the eight years, the ruling castling will automatically take place, as has happened all this time in post-communist Albania. However, they seem to have made the big revelation that hits them in the face in the form of a frustration: They do not have an easy time defeating Edi Rama, despite the failures of the latter, among which the "no" stands out. of the EU that came to us days ago through the mouth of Merkel. It is not in vain that I mentioned the foreign term "frustration".

It's the right term, which explains everything. According to the Oxford Online Dictionary, "frustration" is a "discomfort that comes to a person from the feeling or awareness that he is incapable of achieving a goal." They have thus revealed that they will lose the elections and that the blame for this lies with them. Of no one else. Even Rama is not to blame, no matter how they draw him with the blackest possible colors, make him a dictator, a monster, the worst thing that could have happened to Albanians, etc., etc. It is a way to kill frustration, transferring the blame to others. When Rama is not enough, they attack the "people of Rama", who easily include all those who do not hide that they already know the source of their frustration, which is - I like to repeat - their helplessness to defeat Edi Rama,

It must be said that some of them really believe that Rama and his supporters are the devil himself. They have created a Manichaean political world, in which the forces of evil and the forces of good are facing each other. It seems unbelievable, vilely unbelievable, how others fail to notice that the forces of good are themselves, and that the forces of evil are Edi Rama of Co. It seems that most Albanians, by not trusting them, or by not voting for them, are taking revenge on them, not giving them what they deserve, and failing to distinguish the defenders of democracy from them (!!!) , anti-corruption fighters (!!!), lovers of free voting (!!!), etc., etc. Therefore, they become nervous, reckless, miserable, mouth-watering as soon as they see someone who dares to say in their eyes, that they are simply one of the evils.

Leave it then when someone like me comes out telling them they are not ready to come to power; that they have not shown in any case that they have learned anything from their history filled with theft, robbery, violence, crime, murder; that they are also a great evil, if not greater, and that therefore this time we would do well not to observe that famous and unwritten "golden rule" which they defend as such, as a rule golden then only the losers in politics. It is about the "rule", according to which a party can not get a third consecutive term to run the country. This "rule", which has emerged from our political practice from 1990 onwards, must be violated this time, so that no one thinks that only one thing matters in Albania: to invent the tricks necessary to become the chairman of a large party and to be able to hold with patience, numerous for eight years, the patient opposition. This is how I think about this job, from the position of a man who does not want to put himself in the service of the ambition of the most worthless man in Albanian politics. His name is Lulzim Basha. This is an opinion of mine. Can I have such an opinion, dear oppositionists?

Can I have such an opinion without being scum, dear Grida? Yes? Well thank you very much, then. I am grateful for the generosity you are showing.

Grida has my full understanding, however, when others see her in a televised debate, to devalue her, as a woman. No one else in Albanian public life has had to face masculine attitudes as much as Grida Duma. It has seldom occurred to me to see a man in a television studio in front of her who, on her nerves, does not think of "unmasking" her as a woman. It is an absolutely misogynistic attitude. Albanian men are not used to giving a woman ingenuity and wisdom. So much the less a beautiful woman. And when they are in a debate with someone like that, they do not throw the title "beautiful woman" as a medal, or as a compliment. Rather, they cast it as a stigma. They call her "beautiful woman" not to say "stupid woman". In the hope that the general public will understand or support them. Actually, this hope is never lost. There will always be people who will give understanding and support to the misogynists.

As for Frroku, he seemed to me the night before under Grida's senseless aggression. But all of a sudden Frroku made it easier in front of a woman. He pointed out that she was a woman. And that was the moment when he lost that debate, even though Grida dropped a battery of insults on his back. We must find the strength to agree that whatever a woman says in a debate, misogynistic attitudes are not the answer to be given. By making this choice, the husband has chosen defeat. For me, Frrok Çupi lost that debate precisely because he did the macho. Without making that choice, the loser would be Grida. Together with Agron Gjekmarkaj, who defended Grida in the most unimaginable way imaginable. "You must respect the woman, because you are from the place where the Kanun was born," he told Frrok, among other things. He hinted that the Kanun of Lekë Dukagjini is a manual of feminism. But everyone knows, including Agron himself, that the Kanun is the book antigrua par execellence. At this point, it is even clearer than the Old Testament and the Qur'an.

"The canoe beats the woman like a surplus at home," it says. Want other similar phrases in the Kanun? Here are some: “A man beats his wife, he is not to blame. "A man has the right to beat his wife." "A woman is a bellows to carry me." "The wife has a duty to keep the husband under control." But the misogynistic nature of the Kanun need not be sought in particular phrases. The whole spirit of the Kanun is misogynistic. We can appreciate the Kanun, but not in the way Agron invites us to walk. It remains an excellent document that proves that Albanians have known how to raise and organize coexistence on rules that have not necessarily been more barbaric than the rules of other societies of the same moment in history, but it is not worth seeing as rich as a document , from which we can derive ethical-moral norms that can serve us today. The Kanun has been valid for other times. It is no longer valid for today. Points.

Agron had another, more fatal slide. He addressed Çupi with the words: “If Grida had a brother, he would have fun outside the studio. "Even if Grida asked me, I could do her brother's job." This was one - I invite you to accept my tautology - "excessive exaggeration". They also escaped any low standard set in the political and television debate. Exaggerations with words are indecent indecent, they are a practice from which we must break away, but threats of violence or the legitimation of violence are a serious and unacceptable thing. They are the red line that should never be crossed.

Post Scriptum: There is only one solution. Such debates, organized as gladiatorial contests, have run out of time. They are no longer valid, if they have ever been valid. They do not apply to those who take part in them either. Personally, it has been months since I left the television debate studios for this very reason. If there's one thing I find reprimanding about myself during my career as a journalist, it has to do with participating in it.

TV debate moderators have a lot on hand. They have it up to them to set the rules of the debate, they have it up to them to remove the microphone from those who ignore these rules. They also have the power not to invite the perverts and the violent to their studio. Their program depends on them. If one thing happens, it happens because they want to. Therefore, my appeal is addressed to them: "Give up the programs you make, which no one needs!" But I also appeal to those who have the same disagreement with the way these programs are organized: "Do not go to those television programs, which have raised success over quarrels, fights, slander, swearing, insults, violence!"