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My husband's girlfriend and I have become close friends and yes, our family is weird

My husband's girlfriend and I have become close friends and yes, our family

The fancy word for Elizabeth is "metamour", but I prefer "sister woman" or "my husband's girlfriend". My husband started dating her about a year ago and since then she has become one of my best friends. I usually have not experienced closed relationships, I have generally been in open relationships. When I met my husband eight years ago, he realized that I was not feeling well with long-term monogamy.

We got married about six months after the meeting, mostly for health insurance purposes. My husband was a single father with three children and while we fit in well. At the beginning of our marriage, as we were realizing our new status and suddenly learning to be a parent, we decided to focus on the family we were building. So we agreed to be monogamous for the moment, but with the understanding that we were laying the groundwork for an open relationship in the long run.

Some time passed and they had no energy to connect with anyone else. Although we had previously decided to look at and evaluate together the cases that would come our way.

A few years later we had a baby together that gave us some extra energy. The boy grew up fast and so we were more independent. My husband met Elizabeth on Tinder a year ago.

Without knowing us, it is difficult to understand us. My husband is very loving and caring, and I actually prefer to spend more time alone. We love each other very much and have a lot in common, but like any human being, we cannot meet all of each other's needs. I was really encouraging him to connect with someone with whom he shared similar interests, those interests he did not share with me.

The fact that they sometimes have sex does not seem really important to me, as it does not change anything about my relationship with him or the way we feel about each other. Some people will not understand this, but we are both satisfied. And no, she and I have not established a romantic relationship. She is just my husband's girlfriend.

I met Elizabeth as a result, but I knew in advance that I would love her from what my husband had told me. Throughout the past year, Elizabeth has become a part of our family and I consider her a sister. Like my husband and I, she is also queer (bisexual) like us and understands who we are as a family and how our lives are. We also introduced them to the children.

Elizabeth usually spends one or two nights in our house every week, in the guest room, alone, as we have established some rules since when the children are at home so as not to disrupt their routine.

I really love Elizabeth as part of our family, even though I admit I sometimes feel jealous. There are definitely times when the two stay out and I wish I could be with my husband, but those moments are few. I actually have more time just for myself and her than before because now Elizabeth keeps our kids so we can both go out and even go out for a weekend. Like any close relationship, sometimes there are conflicts. Especially since Elizabeth spends more time in our home and takes on a parent-type role, we sometimes do things differently. Things like this are fairly easy to solve. Most importantly, we all feel better together.

* Giorno dopo Giorno article was adapted in Albanian by Tiranapost.al